Finding your Love Languages

I recently finished reading "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. GREAT BOOK!

Seriously, if you struggling to find love in your marriage I highly recommend you read and implement this book. It could save your marriage!

The Love Languages

1. Quality Time

2. Acts of Service

3. Touch

4. Words of Affirmation

5. Gifts

Why is it important to know my love language?

Everyone has a way of receiving love. That way is also often how you show love. The problem with this is that oft times your partners love language is not the same as yours.

Example story: Jeff and Lauren

Lauren's love language is quality time.

Jeff's is gifts.

Jeff is often at work most of the day and comes home pretty late. He loves his wife, Lauren so he often stops by somewhere and picks her up a gift. She always seems to appreciate the gesture, but she still seems upset a lot of the time. She does a lot for him, but sometimes he wishes she would put more effort into anniversary and birthday gifts.

Lauren is a stay at home mom with 2 little boys. She loves her husband so she tries so hard to do things for him such as cleaning the house and taking care of the kids. She knows he works hard and she appreciates the gifts he gets her, but sometimes she wishes he would make a little more time to spend time with her.

See the problem?

People NEED to feel appreciated and they through appreciated through these love languages.

Let me repeat that...............................................

PEOPLE NEED TO FEEL APPRECIATED.

Love languages = Appreciation

Talk about your love languages

Now that I have you convinced that this is important let's talk.

Find your love language. Do you find yourself wishing your partner would do something more? Which of the love languages can you not live without?

Have a good discussion about this with your partner. Tell each other how you feel appreciation from them and ask what they'd like you to do for them. It will make a world of difference in your marriage/relationship!